Thursday, January 27, 2011

"The Talk" (& A Little Book Talk Too)

I've been dreading it.  Since I was pregnant with my Ms. Sojourner.  10.5 years ago.

Did you know my parents never had "the talk" with me?  I thought maybe that would be the way to go, but then I remembered the horror of piecing things together from peers and being clueless in Sex Ed., and then I decided not to do that to my kids.

Why did I have to have girls?!  If I'd of had boys this would be Mr. Sojourners job and life would be much easier.  But alas, God blessed me with three girls and cursed me with this responsibility.  (I am pretty sure having to have this conversation is part of the curse from Adam & Eve's sin in the garden.  I am not sure how, but it just has to be there fault.  Curse you Adam & Eve!)

While we were in the U.S. I got a few books to help lead the conversation.  (We'll just pretend they are "How to Have 'The Talk' for Dummies" books.  I googled that and they don't have it; you should write it!  I'd buy it.)

Here is the one I used:
There are a couple more in the series.  One before the above book: The Story of Me (God's Design for Sex)(which we have and have used in the past).  And, two after the above one I used: What's the Big Deal?: Why God Cares About Sex (God's Design for Sex) & Facing the Facts: The Truth About Sex and You (God's Design for Sex) (which I purchased in case I need to have further "talks" in the next 19.5 months).

Since the announcement of the baby on the way there have been a few questions.  I figured it was time to whip out the books and give it a try.  How bad could it be?!

My 8 & 10 year old giggled the whole book.  OK, maybe only when private parts were mentioned.  It was mortifying for me.  But, I survived.  They now know the basics.  We even included another talk about inappropriate touching.  (We have had those talks before.  The sexual abuse statistics freak me out.)

So, when did you (or do you plan to) give "the talk"?

Kind regards,


  1. I went the book route was still...awkward...LOL Mine were nine and ten.

  2. Hi! I came over from Alicia's website.

    For now we only have a boy so I'm in the fortunate place of letting the husband deal with it. However, I stay home and know it will come up with me too. Especially when I stop dressing and using the bathroom in front of him for privacy's sake.

    I've heard/read that rather than one talk it should be many talks which is sounds like you're doing! Thanks for the book links can't wait to check them out.

  3. I am using the same books. My husband is usually in the room but doing something else...the giggles we have afterwards about..."you had to say what?" There is an American Girl book that gives more descriptions just for girls about the changes going on in her body. has it

  4. So far, I just have one little boy, so I can gladly relinquish this task to my hubby! *lol* But I'm sure I'll need to be prepared to ask questions that come up...

    How did I miss that you have a baby on the way? CONGRATS!!!


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